October 10, 2009

I'm Brandon Turpin, and today is the longest day of my life.

This blog entry is a Turpy-World exclusive... This will not be posted of facebook mainly for the reason is only those who know me well read Turpy-World.... Those who are not close to me may not truly understand what happened... That being said the following are actual events, no names, dates, or events have been changed. No matter how much you think I made this up... I didn't! All events occur in real time.

The following takes place between 7pm and 8pm on October 9, 2009

This Friday was a good Friday to this point... We went and picked my brother up from the airport Thursday night so I went into work a few hours late.. While working I had a good sales day ending at 17 sales in 4 hours! As I went home after work I found myself needing to get ready to go out for dinner later that evening. My car had not been cleaned inside much so I decided to go vacuum it our at lease. As I got to the car wash they had shampooers next to the vacuums! On my passengers seat was a stain from when someone, who will remain nameless for privacy reasons. Spilled food all over the seat awhile ago! It was cleaned off but there was still a spot that you could tell was discolored. So I decided to shampoo it while I was there. When I applied the foam I soon found out that the shampooer was made for the floors and not for the foam seats that soak up the foam! So as I was getting the stain out little did I know that I was also creating a white foam mark on my seats! After vacuuming out the foam I realized what I had done! So I couldn't just let it sit in the seat so I took it to sonic to get the seat professionally cleaned I don't know if they do just one seat regularly but the lady laughed at me and did it for $20 after that I went back to get ready for the night that little did I know would be the best... and worse night of my life! :)

The following takes place between 8pm and 10pm on October 9, 2009

At 8:30ish, I picked up my date for the nights events. The plans were to go to dinner at Los Hermanos and then over to Comedy Sportz (its tradition) and I was semi excited cause she had never been to Comedy Sportz before so I was getting to break her in.. At least that was the plan!

As we arrived at Los Hermanos we found the night starting off to a great start... Right in front of the restaurant and comedy place there was a open parking spot on center street in Provo on a Friday night! It was an amazing start to the night. As we walked into Los Hermanos we were greeted by the hostess who said "you just have 2?" with 2 menus and silverware in her hand! We didn't even get the chance to stop as we continued to the back room for dinner! As we sat down we were greeted by our waitress Tatiana, to keep it simple she defiantly loved what they were selling and was a A+ server!

Dinner was good, the food was OK! But before we knew it, we needed to leave for the show. As the tab came I grabbed my wallet to pay for dinner as I realized that for some odd reason my debit card was not in my wallet! And no cash! I had no way of paying for dinner! :-( I wouldn't have let her pay for it, but even if she wanted to she didn't have anything with her! As we sat there trying to figure out what to do the manager came up and told us we had to find a way of paying for it or he had to call the cops. Kinda worried now we found out that we could leave collateral and go get money! He said I could leave me phone.. my wallet or anything of value. So what did I do? I left both my phone and wallet! I didn't need the phone and there is no money in the wallet!

The following takes place between 10pm and 11pm on October 9, 2009

As we pulled out of Los Hermanos I noticed a police officer with his lights on behind me! I got nervous as I was not doing anything wrong but have not had the best of luck driving lately! Lucky for me he drove past us and picked off the people in front of us, as he passed I mentioned to my data that if I was to get pulled over I would be pissed! Still needing to get money we drove back up to my house in Cedar Hills! When we arrived there was a party in progress, we went in for a bit, found my card but had to split to pay the dinner! At this point the show was already started so we were in no hurry! As we were driving searching through music I looked up and saw a cop passing me.. as I looked in my rear view mirror I saw he did a U turn! Knowing there was nothing good going to come out of this I tried to get away as quick as possible without going over 30 mph! Unfortunately for me... its hard to out run a cop at 30 mph... he got me! For what I did not know, but I calmly pulled over!

The following takes place between 11pm and 12am on October 9-10, 2009

As the officer came to my window he informed my that apparently I had not come to a complete stop. (which I still am not 100% sure about) but as he asked for my drivers license I had to tell him that the restaurant had is cause I needed to leave collateral. He asked for my information to go look it up! As we were sitting there laughing about the situation the officer came back up and asked me to step out of the car. As I was walking to the back of the car it was a bit nippy so i put my hands in my pocket to keep them warm... I quickly found out that I was not pulled out of the car for a good reason as the officers abruptly told me to take my hands out of my pocket! They explained to me that a ticket I had gotten a few weeks prior was not taken care of and there was a warrant issued for my arrest! And i needed to come up with $815 dollars bail or they had to book my in jail! He asked if there was anyone I could call cause I wasn't carrying $850 cash on me. As I told him I would call my parents I remembered that I had left my phone at the restaurant. I asked if i could use my dates phone and he kindly said yes but then informed me as I was walking to my car that he had to handcuff me! I was handcuffed, searched and taken to my car where the officer explained to my date what was going on. She had to get out, call my moms number and hold the phone to my ear as I talked to my dad! After about 20min we worked it out that my old man was going to come up and pay $100 somehow to get let me go free! Unfortunately I had to be taken back to the police station till he arrived, as I told my date to take my car home I was put in the back of the cop car!

The following takes place between 12am and 1am on October 10, 2009

I was taken a few blocks to the police station where they took me in and put me in a holding room till my pops arrived. When they arrived I was pulled out and taken out where I found my sister taking pics of me which I'm sure will be on facebook soon! :) But I was free! I didn't have to go to jail and everything worked out.... except any plans we had for the night. I went and picked up my car and thanked her for everything and all the crap that happened! Needless to say I was quite embarrassed! All this over a stupid minor traffic ticket a few weeks prior! Thank heavens I have great parents... and the date was more amused by the situation than anything. Even though nothing went as planned... It makes for one heck of a story!!

September 27, 2009

Why?

Sometimes I find I'm drifting,
In this place we call life.
Looking for a meaning,
Wondering why all this strife?

Does it have to be this hard?
Does it have to be this tough?
Do I have to keep on going
down a path that's just too rough?

Why is it when I'm sad,
nothing ever goes my way?
And when I'm feeling happy
It only lasts that day?

Why do my best friends,
and those to whom I care.
Always eventually treat me
Like I'm not even there?

Why do those I hand my heart,
Always throw it back?
And those that truly want it
make me want to yack?

Why do I do the things,
that make me unhappy?
When I know if I stopped,
I'd be a better me?

Why cant things be simple,
Like when I was young?
Why do I ever go against
what came from mothers tongue?

Why is drama all around?
It never goes away!
Why cant I ignore,
the things you do and say?

I guess the only reason,
I can see for all of this.
Is so when its all said and done,
we will not have missed.

The chance to grow, into a man,
to be the best me.
To reach my full potential,
So I can live happily!




July 31, 2009

My Life Is A Re-run!

Just the other day I was hit with a revelation. It was nothing great or spiritual, but it was life changing. I have found that the biography of my life has was the basis on which one of the biggest sit coms was written. You may be asking yourself right now... "Brandon how is this possible? You are just a average Joe!" And I appreciate your concern.. But let me go into further detail to which my life was recorded then acted out on TV!

Situation #1 - I am a young 21 year old looking for love in all the wrong places! When all of a sudden I realize that I am in love (or what one may consider to be) with my best friend! But we are best friends, that can never work.. Im in.. "The friend zone" so i say nothing and just live inside with this crush. One day my room mate finds out I like her and tells me to drop my balls and just tell her... I do not dare, the situation is never perfect, but I realize that the longer I wait, the more in "the zone" I will fall. So I tell her, and for the most part it works out, we date, until one day we decide to call it ends, but still remain friends!

Have ya figured it out? Let me give you another hint!!

Situation #2 - I am a good looking man with low self confidence! I could get many ladies that are interested in me but for some reason I keep going back to the comfort person that I know will never work out, who doesn't make me happy but I know she is there! Soon enough I realize that I have to stop and get out of this zone and thats when girl #2 comes in the picture. She is everything I lacked in the other girl, I could hang out and not have to make out, I wanted to cuddle! And girl #1 gets insanely jealous and tries to throw herself at me! I choose girl #2 that ends up not working out anyways but girl #2 helped me get out of that comfort zone!

Creepy huh? Still haven't guessed it... OK just one more clue!

Situation #3 - I have the best room mate! We do everything together, it was a match made in heaven. We had many many great nights and parties. Soon my room mate feel like he is in a position where he wants to live alone, so he tells me that we are no longer going to be friends! I go out and find a new room mate but realize that room mate #2 is not the same and miss room mate #1! Room mate #1 gets his own place but soon missed me and soon they are back together cause they both realize they have to be together to have the most fun!

All 3 of these situations are situations that I have found while watching the first 3 seasons of Friends! Its crazy how each persons life is a different stage in my life. Each story closely resembles stories in my life. I literally feel that Ross, Chandler and Joey are playing my life! Even the theme song makes me feel like im one of them!


So no one told you life was going to be this way.
Your job's a joke, you're broke, you're love life's DOA.
It's like you're always stuck in second gear,
Well, it hasn't been your day, your week, your month, or even your year.

But, I'll be there for you, when the rain starts to pour.
I'll be there for you, like I've been there before.
I'll be there for you, cause you're there for me too.

You're still in bed at ten, the work began at eight.
You've burned your breakfast, so far, things are going great.
Your mother warned you there'd be days like these,
But she didn't tell you when the world has brought you down to your knees.

That, I'll be there for you, when the rain starts to pour.
I'll be there for you, like I've been there before.
I'll be there for you, cause you're there for me too.

But the show also tells a tell of close Friends that are there for each other as a family through life's ups and down, a close family that is always there for each other! And why we may not all be neighbors and hang out 24/7 I have my 2 close guy friends who are there for me no matter what and I trust, 3 girls who I can count on for anything! And more than anything! No matter what road your life takes, or bumps you come up on! As long as you have your Friends there for you, Life will be OK!!

July 20, 2009

No Boundries!!

In sports there are some athletes that excel, some that do good, some that are OK and some that just cant pick it up. There are many factors that go into becoming good, hard work, dedication... But all that does nothing if you have no belief in yourself.

When I played little league baseball I was a roller coaster each year on how well I played. One year I would pitch and play short stop, hit home runs no prob, then the next I would be out in right field and strike out at the plate more than girls do with Brandt! Looking back I notice a pattern on why I was like that... I had the skill both years, but what changed was a coach that believed in me, that made me believe in myself. There were only 2 years I did not make the accelerated team, both years I was coached by a coach that did not believe in me. And coincidently I did not believe in myself and played badly those years.

When I started wrestling in 9th grade, my 2nd year I was good enough for Varsity. Over the next 2 years I beet a lot of people that I should not have... I did not know at the time who they were. I did not know the big names. I just went out every match with a clear mind that I can win... half way through my Jr year I started being one of the elite wrestlers for my weight and I realized that when every week they would talk about me on a local radio station and always chose me to beat my opponent. I started knowing wrestlers, and names of good wrestlers! And I realized that when I knew the wrestlers were good I would subconciously think I could loose... And I started... I really noticed that I was doing this when during the summer of my JR and Sr year I was invited to Nationals... I did not know any wrestlers from the east coast or who they were... And in that tournament I beat 2 wrestlers that were nationally ranked... I was far from being. But I did not know till my coach told me after. I had to work on mental mindsets my Sr year to make sure I did not psych myself out.

In sales 90% of making the sale is not what you say but how you say it.. your confidence in what you say and what your selling, people can pick up when you don't believe the words you are saying...

Well recently I have had my eyes opened that I have fell back into one of these mental mindsets! I have had a rough few months, and a few situations that made me self confidence and belief in who I am change me. Its almost like I would look into a mirror and see the Turpy in my head and not the one actually looking back at me, and slowly I fell back into a state of mediocrity.

One of my favorite quotes I have always tried to remember is by Zig Ziglar. He said: "You are the only person that can cap your potential"

There are many things that can make us put a cap on that potential... The people we hang out with, if I hang out with someone who is negative... sooner or later I will become a negative person. Your thoughts, I don't think many of us realize but the things that go through our mind all day some how find a way of showing up in our lives. If every day we are thinking that we are worthless sooner or later we will let ourselves become worthless.

The biggest obstacle we all face in staying positive is fear.. fear of rejection, fear of the unknown, fear of failure... But failure, disapointment and rejection are all part of becoming great. They should not be things that are feared. If we overcome these things we will all become things we never imagined!

Every time I need help over coming this, I think if the Micheal Jordan video

Go to http://turpyworld.blogspot.com/2009/07/no-boundries.html to watch video if your in facebook




I know I am capable of great things and I will not stop till I become... With help from friends and overcoming these "fears and mindsets" I will succeed!

July 4, 2009

The Gift of Trust

I think one of the most priceless gifts you can receive is the gift of trust. I believe we as humans are constantly looking for someone that we can share that trust with. Weather its family, a friend, a loved one or anyone else! We want to feel that trust! At times I think we have all been guilty of giving that trust away to someone who may not have deserved it, or that deserved it but in some way betrayed that trust you shared.

The first time I remember an incident of loosing that trust with someone was when I was about 8. As a group of friends we were always hanging out together, having fun! Sure we had our little boy scuffles, but after its all said and done we were friends once again. One day when I went to play with Brett Finlayson, as I came around the corner of his house I noticed that Matt Futch was at his house. We were all in the same group of friends and it was a normal thing. But this time it was much different. As I came around the corner they saw me and ran back into the house. I went around the block on my bike and went by again, they were back outside!... Now the details are a bit cloudy on how it went down but somehow I found out that Brett would not play with me because Matt told him he did not like me! I was young, the situation to my parents probably seemed silly, but I still remember how hard it was to breath as I was going home crying. The pain that my young heart felt from the betrayal from a friend! I went home and cried to my mom, and looking back even though it was just little kids being silly she helped me through the pain that I felt! As typical boys we were all friends again, probably a day later or so! But I will never forget the feeling I felt when the trust my young heart had in my friends was lost.

Over the next few years I know I felt that same feeling multiple times! In college I met a girl that I really started to like a lot! It was the first time I had a form of love for a girl. After a few months I saw her at her place cuddling with another guy watching a movie! Just like when I was 8, my chest hurt, I couldn't breath and when I went home crying once again my mother was there to comfort my heart.... Again after my mission, the first "real" relationship I was in. I had never given my heart to someone as much as I did her! And to this day I still don't think she realizes how much trust I put in her by opening my heart to her! I never said I loved her, but its was the closest I had been with any girl! After a series of events of being heart broken, I decided that I could not do it anymore and ended what relationship we had! It was by far the hardest thing I had to do. She was only the 2nd girl I had ever cried over before and after that point. But when everything happened I no longer was the tough 22 year old man! I was the 8 year old boy once again! Walking back to my place heart broken, couldn't breath, crying! And once again that 8 year old heart did the first thing it knew what to do... Called my mom, and once again she was there for me!

So why do we do it? Why do we continue to give our hearts, our trust to people that continue to hurt us over and over again? Why do we continue to open our hearts to girls that break them over and over again? Why do we continue to make friends with people who betray us over and over again? Even when we think there is someone that is different, a friend, a lover that is not going to do that, chances are it will happen! So why continue to put ourselves down that path? Would it be easier to never open up? never trust anyone?

My answer is NO!!

Why I'm not 100% sure! But I also know the best times I had as a kid were when me, Brett and Matt would go out and ride out bikes or hang out! The most fun I have had in the past are with friends that I have given myself to. The times when I am most complete is when I'm spending my time with a girl that I have given my whole to! With every betrayal and tear, come many good moments along the way! Moments I would not give up for anything!

So at the prime age of 25 when I am forced to make decisions on who I should trust, who is going to be there for me! Or what girl I should date! I wish I could say that everything is fine and all my friends are trustworthy! But thats not the case! Recently some friends have lost my trust, some breaths have been lost, some tears have been shed and hard times have gone by! Will this be a future changing thing? Or will it be like when I was 8 and tomorrow be fine? The answer I do not know! But there are 2 things i know for sure

1 - We have to be willing to put our feeling and self on the line. Give our all to some relationship! We will shed many tears along the way, have many hard times, but we will also have many great ones!

2 - When everything else has failed, when no one wants to hire you, when your friends don't wanna be friends, when a girl you like ignores you! When your heart hurts, its hard to breath, your crying and you feel like you cant go on anymore! There is always someone home waiting with open arms to help you! The people you know will never betray that trust you put in them! I love my family for all they are and don't know where I would be without them!

Times may be hard, tears may still keep comin. But when its all said and done! I will look back and say... IT WAS WORTH IT!!