My Life Is A Re-run!

Just the other day I was hit with a revelation. It was nothing great or spiritual, but it was life changing. I have found that the biography of my life has was the basis on which one of the biggest sit coms was written. You may be asking yourself right now... "Brandon how is this possible? You are just a average Joe!" And I appreciate your concern.. But let me go into further detail to which my life was recorded then acted out on TV!

Situation #1 - I am a young 21 year old looking for love in all the wrong places! When all of a sudden I realize that I am in love (or what one may consider to be) with my best friend! But we are best friends, that can never work.. Im in.. "The friend zone" so i say nothing and just live inside with this crush. One day my room mate finds out I like her and tells me to drop my balls and just tell her... I do not dare, the situation is never perfect, but I realize that the longer I wait, the more in "the zone" I will fall. So I tell her, and for the most part it works out, we date, until one day we decide to call it ends, but still remain friends!

Have ya figured it out? Let me give you another hint!!

Situation #2 - I am a good looking man with low self confidence! I could get many ladies that are interested in me but for some reason I keep going back to the comfort person that I know will never work out, who doesn't make me happy but I know she is there! Soon enough I realize that I have to stop and get out of this zone and thats when girl #2 comes in the picture. She is everything I lacked in the other girl, I could hang out and not have to make out, I wanted to cuddle! And girl #1 gets insanely jealous and tries to throw herself at me! I choose girl #2 that ends up not working out anyways but girl #2 helped me get out of that comfort zone!

Creepy huh? Still haven't guessed it... OK just one more clue!

Situation #3 - I have the best room mate! We do everything together, it was a match made in heaven. We had many many great nights and parties. Soon my room mate feel like he is in a position where he wants to live alone, so he tells me that we are no longer going to be friends! I go out and find a new room mate but realize that room mate #2 is not the same and miss room mate #1! Room mate #1 gets his own place but soon missed me and soon they are back together cause they both realize they have to be together to have the most fun!

All 3 of these situations are situations that I have found while watching the first 3 seasons of Friends! Its crazy how each persons life is a different stage in my life. Each story closely resembles stories in my life. I literally feel that Ross, Chandler and Joey are playing my life! Even the theme song makes me feel like im one of them!


So no one told you life was going to be this way.
Your job's a joke, you're broke, you're love life's DOA.
It's like you're always stuck in second gear,
Well, it hasn't been your day, your week, your month, or even your year.

But, I'll be there for you, when the rain starts to pour.

I'll be there for you, like I've been there before.

I'll be there for you, cause you're there for me too.

You're still in bed at ten, the work began at eight.

You've burned your breakfast, so far, things are going great.

Your mother warned you there'd be days like these,

But she didn't tell you when the world has brought you down to your knees.

That, I'll be there for you, when the rain starts to pour.

I'll be there for you, like I've been there before.

I'll be there for you, cause you're there for me too.

But the show also tells a tell of close Friends that are there for each other as a family through life's ups and down, a close family that is always there for each other! And why we may not all be neighbors and hang out 24/7 I have my 2 close guy friends who are there for me no matter what and I trust, 3 girls who I can count on for anything! And more than anything! No matter what road your life takes, or bumps you come up on! As long as you have your Friends there for you, Life will be OK!!

No Boundries!!

In sports there are some athletes that excel, some that do good, some that are OK and some that just cant pick it up. There are many factors that go into becoming good, hard work, dedication... But all that does nothing if you have no belief in yourself.

When I played little league baseball I was a roller coaster each year on how well I played. One year I would pitch and play short stop, hit home runs no prob, then the next I would be out in right field and strike out at the plate more than girls do with Brandt! Looking back I notice a pattern on why I was like that... I had the skill both years, but what changed was a coach that believed in me, that made me believe in myself. There were only 2 years I did not make the accelerated team, both years I was coached by a coach that did not believe in me. And coincidently I did not believe in myself and played badly those years.

When I started wrestling in 9th grade, my 2nd year I was good enough for Varsity. Over the next 2 years I beet a lot of people that I should not have... I did not know at the time who they were. I did not know the big names. I just went out every match with a clear mind that I can win... half way through my Jr year I started being one of the elite wrestlers for my weight and I realized that when every week they would talk about me on a local radio station and always chose me to beat my opponent. I started knowing wrestlers, and names of good wrestlers! And I realized that when I knew the wrestlers were good I would subconciously think I could loose... And I started... I really noticed that I was doing this when during the summer of my JR and Sr year I was invited to Nationals... I did not know any wrestlers from the east coast or who they were... And in that tournament I beat 2 wrestlers that were nationally ranked... I was far from being. But I did not know till my coach told me after. I had to work on mental mindsets my Sr year to make sure I did not psych myself out.

In sales 90% of making the sale is not what you say but how you say it.. your confidence in what you say and what your selling, people can pick up when you don't believe the words you are saying...

Well recently I have had my eyes opened that I have fell back into one of these mental mindsets! I have had a rough few months, and a few situations that made me self confidence and belief in who I am change me. Its almost like I would look into a mirror and see the Turpy in my head and not the one actually looking back at me, and slowly I fell back into a state of mediocrity.

One of my favorite quotes I have always tried to remember is by Zig Ziglar. He said: "You are the only person that can cap your potential"

There are many things that can make us put a cap on that potential... The people we hang out with, if I hang out with someone who is negative... sooner or later I will become a negative person. Your thoughts, I don't think many of us realize but the things that go through our mind all day some how find a way of showing up in our lives. If every day we are thinking that we are worthless sooner or later we will let ourselves become worthless.

The biggest obstacle we all face in staying positive is fear.. fear of rejection, fear of the unknown, fear of failure... But failure, disapointment and rejection are all part of becoming great. They should not be things that are feared. If we overcome these things we will all become things we never imagined!

Every time I need help over coming this, I think if the Micheal Jordan video

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I know I am capable of great things and I will not stop till I become... With help from friends and overcoming these "fears and mindsets" I will succeed!

The Gift of Trust

I think one of the most priceless gifts you can receive is the gift of trust. I believe we as humans are constantly looking for someone that we can share that trust with. Weather its family, a friend, a loved one or anyone else! We want to feel that trust! At times I think we have all been guilty of giving that trust away to someone who may not have deserved it, or that deserved it but in some way betrayed that trust you shared.

The first time I remember an incident of loosing that trust with someone was when I was about 8. As a group of friends we were always hanging out together, having fun! Sure we had our little boy scuffles, but after its all said and done we were friends once again. One day when I went to play with Brett Finlayson, as I came around the corner of his house I noticed that Matt Futch was at his house. We were all in the same group of friends and it was a normal thing. But this time it was much different. As I came around the corner they saw me and ran back into the house. I went around the block on my bike and went by again, they were back outside!... Now the details are a bit cloudy on how it went down but somehow I found out that Brett would not play with me because Matt told him he did not like me! I was young, the situation to my parents probably seemed silly, but I still remember how hard it was to breath as I was going home crying. The pain that my young heart felt from the betrayal from a friend! I went home and cried to my mom, and looking back even though it was just little kids being silly she helped me through the pain that I felt! As typical boys we were all friends again, probably a day later or so! But I will never forget the feeling I felt when the trust my young heart had in my friends was lost.

Over the next few years I know I felt that same feeling multiple times! In college I met a girl that I really started to like a lot! It was the first time I had a form of love for a girl. After a few months I saw her at her place cuddling with another guy watching a movie! Just like when I was 8, my chest hurt, I couldn't breath and when I went home crying once again my mother was there to comfort my heart.... Again after my mission, the first "real" relationship I was in. I had never given my heart to someone as much as I did her! And to this day I still don't think she realizes how much trust I put in her by opening my heart to her! I never said I loved her, but its was the closest I had been with any girl! After a series of events of being heart broken, I decided that I could not do it anymore and ended what relationship we had! It was by far the hardest thing I had to do. She was only the 2nd girl I had ever cried over before and after that point. But when everything happened I no longer was the tough 22 year old man! I was the 8 year old boy once again! Walking back to my place heart broken, couldn't breath, crying! And once again that 8 year old heart did the first thing it knew what to do... Called my mom, and once again she was there for me!

So why do we do it? Why do we continue to give our hearts, our trust to people that continue to hurt us over and over again? Why do we continue to open our hearts to girls that break them over and over again? Why do we continue to make friends with people who betray us over and over again? Even when we think there is someone that is different, a friend, a lover that is not going to do that, chances are it will happen! So why continue to put ourselves down that path? Would it be easier to never open up? never trust anyone?

My answer is NO!!

Why I'm not 100% sure! But I also know the best times I had as a kid were when me, Brett and Matt would go out and ride out bikes or hang out! The most fun I have had in the past are with friends that I have given myself to. The times when I am most complete is when I'm spending my time with a girl that I have given my whole to! With every betrayal and tear, come many good moments along the way! Moments I would not give up for anything!

So at the prime age of 25 when I am forced to make decisions on who I should trust, who is going to be there for me! Or what girl I should date! I wish I could say that everything is fine and all my friends are trustworthy! But thats not the case! Recently some friends have lost my trust, some breaths have been lost, some tears have been shed and hard times have gone by! Will this be a future changing thing? Or will it be like when I was 8 and tomorrow be fine? The answer I do not know! But there are 2 things i know for sure

1 - We have to be willing to put our feeling and self on the line. Give our all to some relationship! We will shed many tears along the way, have many hard times, but we will also have many great ones!

2 - When everything else has failed, when no one wants to hire you, when your friends don't wanna be friends, when a girl you like ignores you! When your heart hurts, its hard to breath, your crying and you feel like you cant go on anymore! There is always someone home waiting with open arms to help you! The people you know will never betray that trust you put in them! I love my family for all they are and don't know where I would be without them!

Times may be hard, tears may still keep comin. But when its all said and done! I will look back and say... IT WAS WORTH IT!!